No matter your power exchange dynamic or your sexual preferences, both giving and receiving oral sex is a great way to create both a deeper sense of intimacy and a more pleasurable sexual experience within your relationship. Some people feel that when it comes to BDSM, the dominant in a relationship dynamic, no matter the gender, should not perform oral sex, but rather only receive it, because to perform it would be acting against their dominant nature and create a show of ‘weakness’ to their submissive partner.
Whatever two or more people agree upon within their power exchange or BDSM-related scenes is totally up to them, however to just totally dismiss any action or sensation simply because of a prejudice or discrimination is really selling yourself and your intimate experiences short. Sometimes all you need is a little practice and an open mind to find a new joy in an experience that you were ready to write off. These 5 simple tips can help you give & receive incredible oral sex!
1. Take Your Time
Like anything else, becoming skilled at oral pleasure takes time. Rushing to the finale (the big O) is perfectly fine some of the time. However constantly skipping the foreplay means missing out on the wide range of emotions and sensations that accompany the process of oral sex. Take your time, go slowly…even drag out the experience for a while, I promise you the end result will be so much better for it.
2. Ask Questions & Listen to the Answers
I don’t think I know anyone who was spectacular at giving (or even receiving) oral sex the first time out of the gate. That’s why taking your time as described in Tip #1 is so important. Get to know your partner’s likes and dislikes through their vocalizations and body language. Pay attention and you’ll learn a lot. However, you’ll learn even more by simply asking what your partner likes and dislikes. Don’t be afraid to discuss what turns you both off and what turns you both off. Open and honest communication is key in so many areas of your relationship.
3. Maintain Eye Contact
Most men are visual creatures while most females are emotional creatures. Maintaining eye contact during oral sex, whether giving or receiving, is essential to creating intimacy because it involves both visual and emotional feedback between partners. Looking into your partner’s eyes can help build trust, passion and foster a greater desire of more intimacy. It’s a wonderful cycle in which to get caught up!
4. Use Your Hands
We all know that the use of lips and tongues are very important aspects of oral sex but don’t forget about hands. Letting your hands explore in addition to using your lips and tongue will certainly boost the intimacy!
5. Don’t Forget All The Erogenous Zones
Just as hands are as important as lips and tongues when performing oral sex, don’t forget to include all the other areas of the body that give and receive pleasure when engaging in oral sex. Oral sex is so much more than just clits & dicks. Have fun exploring…and licking and sucking…and all that other good stuff!