Attentiveness in D/s Caregiver Relationship Dynamics
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Last week, my Dom went grocery shopping with the list that I had created for Him, per His request. I realized MINUTES after He left the house, without His cell phone (of course), that I had forgotten to write down that we needed ketchup on that grocery list. Ugh!!!!
We’d had a discussion, a few days prior, about needing more ketchup and I mentioned that I wanted to start buying organic ketchup from now on, after reading all about the terrible types and amounts of preservatives used in most major brands of ketchup. It wasn’t a huge discussion, just a quick exchange in passing while I was cooking in the kitchen. I mentally scolded myself for the defeat that forgotten ketchup had brought upon me.
So can you possibly imagine my shock and delight when Daddy returned home from grocery shopping with a bottle of ketchup?? And…it was the ORGANIC KETCHUP.
I seriously fell in love with Him on a whole new level that day.
Now, remembering to get my organic ketchup may not seem like a big deal…but really, it was and IS huge. My Daddy demonstrated one instance of His consistent and absolute attentiveness to my wants and needs. Through this condiment shopping example, I saw how He is always listening to me when i speak, absorbing and processing that new information, storing that information so that it can be accessed at a later date and then actually recalling said information exactly, whenever the need should arise, in order to fulfill one or more of my wants and/or needs.
It still may not sound like much to some people. I mean, isn’t listening and responding (or at least acknowledging) submissive’s wants and needs what a good Dom is supposed to do anyway? Well, yes, it is what they are SUPPOSED to do in theory…but it’s huge when it actually happens in daily life and the moment shouldn’t be minimized nor taken for granted. When a party in the relationship lives up to their word, especially without being asked or reminded, that party should be acknowledged and thanked for their consistent efforts.
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I was almost in tears last night when I saw He remembered to get the pancake syrup I had (once again) forgotten to list for Him on the latest shopping list. LIGHT SYRUP at that. Daddy’s grocery item retention skills are really trumping my list writing skills. However, I was not punished. Daddy would never punish me for an honest mistake. That’s just one of the qualities which make Him the wonderful Dominant that He is.
These last six months of living together with my Daddy have been some of the most challenging and rewarding months I have ever lived. I have learned so much about myself, about Him, about communication skills and about what real intimacy looks like…and how it feels. We do get into our little tiffs, like most couples, but overall, I couldn’t be happier right now. However, as His submissive, I have been pushing myself to measure up to some lofty expectations I had in my head of what it entails to be seen and to feel as a great live-in submissive. I’ve been incredibly stressed at times trying to make everything work out perfectly. Other times, everything feels so natural and I don’t have to work at submission at all, it just *is* and I just *am*. I felt like I’ve found myself again, only this time, I like who I am becoming. I think Daddy needed to show me that although I am very much in service to Him, He also, in very realistic manners, is in service to me.
Now, I know that last line can be taken as fairly contradictory and/or controversial to some per our D/s Caregiver power exchange dynamic but honestly, I don’t really care. D/s cannot exist inside a vacuum and to us it isn’t only shades of black or white. Nor is it ’50 Shades of Grey’. Our relationship dynamic is exactly that…OURS…and I know we are very blessed to be able to truly see one another in this manner. He remembers everything I need Him to remember and I know He sees everything that I need Him to see, just as I do in return for Him. And I’ve always known that…but it is always nice to be reminded. Those little reminders are what gives me the strength to proceed with confidence as it fuels my dedication to my wonderful Family and my amazing Daddy ❤