A member of another group asked what being a ‘little’ was all about as this person was wondering if it was for them. This was the best answer I could give. What do you think about my answer? Does it ring true for you or am I way off the mark?
On Being “Little”, in Relation to BDSM…
Ok, this is the way I see it… We ALL have some version of a ‘little’ in us. It’s what’s called our ‘inner child’. Some people spend their adult lives either ignoring, being ashamed of or trying to silence him/her, but I think that is incredibly unhealthy. I’m not saying everyone needs to indulge their inner child to the extent that some littles do but I think ignoring or trying to silence them is just as bad as over indulgence.
As adults, most of us cannot be little all the time, nor would we enjoy it. The people who are Adult Babies every day of their lives are missing the wonderful things about being whatever adult age they are, imo.
Being a little doesn’t have to only be about regression…it can also be about nurturing the inner child that was hurt, abused or misunderstood in some way. The extent to which we let our little “out” depends on personal preference and on our partner’s comfortability with the issue. My Dom…my Daddy Dom, actually…enjoys when I can relax enough and find time enough to indulge my little but I don’t think He would ever want to see me as the ‘third child’ in our family. He loves, appreciates and needs my adult self to be the driving force in our dynamic. And that’s ok because it works for both of us.
Some littles like babydoll nighties & frilly dresses, all white and pink…some of us, instead, like the Lolita fashion of corsets and garters. It’s all up to the person, with the consideration of their partner, if they so choose it to be.
YOU ARE COMPLETELY NORMAL!! You aren’t crazy or bad or childish for wanting to explore this side of you. You don’t have to have tea parties with stuffies or suck a pacifier to be little. I don’t. It’s all about what actions and behaviors nurture YOUR inner child in a healthy and consensual manner.