*Written and posted on Facebook on September 17, 2015.
There are several types of spankings that can be introduced and applied within your relationship dynamic, including therapeutic spankings, erotic spankings, punishment spankings, role play spankings, hardcore spankings and maintenance spankings. These spankings can be given by hand or by impact play props, such a paddle, a cane, a flogger, a riding crop, a whip, a slapper, a cat-o-nine tails or anything else that can be safely used as an impact session prop. Each type of spanking will have its own range on the pain scale of 1 (slight slap) to 10 (extreme strike). Any type of spanking can and should be stopped immediately by the submissive calling the safe word.
Therapeutic spankings are solely intended to bring about emotional release for the submissive and as such, they are usually without any sexual aspect. The Dominant is seeking to break down any emotional walls the submissive may be struggling with and/or to reduce stress by triggering an emotional release, usually (for me anyway) resulting in uncontrollable sobbing until complete exhaustion. They are most often done by hand so the Dominant can more intimately connect with the submissive. Therapeutic spankings will usually range anywhere from 4 to 8 on the pain scale, but the preferences and needs of each couple will vary.
Erotic spankings are intended as an erotic prelude to a sexual encounter. These types of spankings usually begin very mellow and deliberate and build in intensity to the desired level of erotic pain. Submissive “painsluts” are very fond of these types of spankings, as the pain isn’t overwhelming and the endorphins released will increase their sexual desire, in turn, increasing the arousal of their Dominant. They can be done with any implement the couple most enjoys. Erotic spankings will usually increase in range on the pain scale, from 2 to 8, but can go as far as 10, depending upon preferences of the couple.
Punishment spankings are just that…punishment…and are NOT intended to be enjoyed by the submissive. They are used to correct inappropriate behavior and to serve as a reminder of the Dominant’s displeasure in the actions of the submissive. They can be done with any implement but some feel that using the bare hands is much more intimate, and thus bonds the experience to the mind of the submissive and offers a greater chance of the submissive not repeating the inappropriate behavior. Punishment spankings can range from 4 to 10 on the pain scale, per the intentions of the Dominant.
Role play spankings are the most diverse type of spankings because the role play scenario(s) can vary significantly from couple to couple and from role play experience to experience. The role play scenarios can include a Mommy disciplining her little boy for drawing on the walls to a government official torturing a criminal for information. The ideas for role play spankings are only limited by your imagination and personal comfort level. They can be done with bare hands and any implement(s) that fit the scenario. Role play spankings can range from 1 to 10 on the pain scale, depending upon the fantasy and the preferences of the couple.
Hardcore spankings are exactly as the name suggests…hardcore. These spankings are most often only engaged in by Sadists and masochists and/or painsluts. They are intended to deliver and receive pain…nothing more and nothing less, and as such, feelings of arousal are secondary, if even applicable. They can be done by hand or by an impact session prop, and are often applied by the more extreme ones, such as tails, slappers and whips. Hardcore spankings can gradually increase in range on the pain scale from 4 to 10…but many Sadists start hard and heavy and maintain it throughout the session.
Maintenance spankings are used as a method of establishing a connection, or more often a re-connection, between a Dom and a sub. The intimate touching and exchanges of energy are positive methods of expressing love, connection and trust. These spankings are even done in LDRs (long distance relationships) by the means of the submissive applying self-spanking techniques under the orders of the Dominant, where the submissive is acting in His or Her stead. They can be done by hand or with any desired impact play prop. Maintenance spankings can range from 2 to 6 on the pain scale, but can vary upon the preferences and desires of each couple…and they can often end in tears, cuddles and sweet words of love and positive reinforcement.
Do you utilize any of these types of spankings in your relationship dynamic? If so, which ones and what do you get out of the experience?