No matter how long you have been with your partner(s), you can always learn more about them. You might be surprized by what you learn…or that one quirk that you just couldn’t understand might finally make sense!
Daddy and i had games of ‘Truth or Dare” and “20 Questions” over the phone when we were long distance and over the 2 1/2 years, every session lasted into the wee hours of the morning.
Here’s a list of conversation starters i found on Pinterest to help break the ice when incorporating these types of discussions into your dynamic…and let these questions inspire you to write down your own questions AND ACTUALLY ASK them of your partner(s).
No hang ups, no fear. No bullshit. This ritual requires total honesty and it doesn’t work any other way.
If necessary, make a rule that no one can get angry/pout/agrue about anything that’s said and that any sensitive issues that come up will be discussed gently and respectfully and make sure everyone involves follows the rule.
If you have a safeword, discuss if it can be used if the game gets too intense or make up a seperate ’emotional safeword’ to use in times of emotional distress.
If a topic is off limits, state it outright. You are allowed to maintain limits while still being completely honest. Don’t ask questions to which you aren’t ready to hear the answers.
These are the basic steps to beginning the truly open and honest communication on which our Lifestyle is built.
And don’t forget… HAVE FUN!! Not every session has to be so deep, especially in the beginning. This ritual game is a process, like everything else in our Lifestyle.