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I’ll be honest here…I almost bypassed this meme without saving it because I had no intentions of posting it. You see, I use these internet memes that I find to spark inspiration for my writing. When I saw this one, it stopped me, but I thought, “This is completely inapplicable. D/s and especially M/s relationship don’t ‘fight’, they discuss”.
Yeah. Maybe in a perfect world…or maybe if you or your partner(s) just aren’t the excitable type when tensions arise.
If that’s the case, good for you! Otherwise, you’re like the rest of us who do, occasionally, lose our cool when we become hyper emotional, no matter our relationship dynamic. I gave this list a second glance and then I saved it so I could share it here.
Fighting in a relationship isn’t productive. Discussions are what is productive and that’s what most strive for when communicating uncomfortable or intense ideas to our partner(s). Self control and personal responsibility are never to be forgotten in any relationship, but especially not with your significant other(s).
The rules of your power exchange should also always apply, no matter the circumstances or expressed emotions, unless of course, the dynamic has made special allowances specifically for such events. Otherwise, most s-type would be ill-advised to lash out at their D-type…but unfortunately, it does happen.
These four steps are guidelines to learning new behaviors during an intense or emotional discussion with your partner(s). Taking a moment to remember these points when you are upset will definitely save a lot of unnecessary tears, snger, distrust and punishments.
What are some other steps you take when you’re upset or emotional so that you don’t fight with your partner(s)?